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Section Section DECATUR DAILY REVIEW Classified News Pages 11 to 18 DECATUR, ILLINOIS, TUESDAY, AUGUST 24, 1971 Race Policy Changing They Get Free Ride, but Always a Gripe cMf lilBtSiliii About-Face for Elks choose our friends we do it on She's plain looking and devoid of personality. In her defense, however, I must say, if I sat in the same room with a wax dummy eight hours a day, five Luann's Studio Mrs. David Morrow Mrs. Darrell Pare Nupital Vows Said Summer Brides Ann Landers because she was having recurrent dreams about her foot doctor. (He was a married man and never even looked at her.) Several months later she asked for the ring back and set the wedding date for January of '69.

In May of that year she developed a skin rash and returned the ring betfause, as she puts it, "I am allergic to Preston." Three months later the rash disappeared and she decided her hair spray was the cause. She asked for the ring back but Preston refused to give it to her. The latest in this real life soap opera is that she says if he will give her the ring she will marry him within the month. He said no and she has threatened to kill herself. I don't want a suicide on my son's conscience.

Please advise. Van Couver Dear Van: If Preston is smart he'll take the ring to the jeweler and see if he can get a refund or a credit. Your son should consider himself lucky that the wedding never came off. She's a nut Give in or lose him when a guy gives you this line, look out! For tips on how to handle the super sex salesman, check Ann Landers. Read her booklet.

"Necking and Petting What Are The Limits?" Send your request to Ann Landers, P. O. Box 3346, Chicago 60654, enclosing 50c in coin and a long, stamped, self-addressed envelope. Shop Monday Noon 'til Tuesday, WeJies-day, Thursday and Saturday 9:30 'til Friday 9:30 'til 6:00 the subordinate lodges will approve the convention's action giving you power to suspend the rule. Fournace: I haven't the slightest idea.

I truly don't Let me say this, for example. We have a lodge in Washington, D. which happens to be in an area that has suddenly grown up to be a black area where there's been all kinds of burning of buildings, bombings and people are afraid to go on the streets at night. So I suppose they would be resentful. Towns Differ Another town all right, North Canton, Ohio, here, a suburb of Canton I'm sure they couldn't care less.

They'd have no feelings. There are many areas where there is not a problem. There are other areas where because of racial disturbances it is a problem. Q. You have said that the Elks spend $15 million annually on charitable, educational and patriotic causes and that this money is distributed without regard to race.

Do you see any conflict here with your membership requirement? A. No, I don't think there's a conflict at all. I mean, for example, I worked many years in the area here for the United Negro College Foundation. And I like them and I have some friends that are Negroes, but I don't necessarily have a lot of Negro friends in my home. I have had, not that I would have any objection, certainly, to individuals.

The thing that you have to recognize is as you and I days a week he'd probably begin to look good to me, too. (The exrerts call this the Lax of Proximity.) My husband denies there is anything going on but I know he's covering up. I've offered him a separation but he says I am being ridiculous. What should I do? I've seen marriages between people our age break up and nobody is happier. The man loses the respect of his children and friends.

The younger woman has an old gaf fer on her hands in a few years and ends up being his nurse. The wife actually comes out best. But I still love this silly boob and I hate to see him make a fool of himself. As I sit here thinking of how to end this letter I know what I ought to do. I'm going to stay right here, do nothing, and wait for him to regain his senses.

Thanks for helping me make up my mind. You're wonderful, Ann Landers. Des Momes Dear I am: How nice of vou to sav so. Thanks for writing. Dear Ann Landers: Our son Preston has been dating a girl who is 25 gome on 10.

They were engaged in December of 1967. They talked about a spring wedding. In March the girl returned the ring Canton, Ohio (AP) E. G. Fournace, the national Elks' new grand exalted ruler, says he thinks his organization is in the process of a cautious about-face on its whites only membership tradition.

Delegates to the 1971 Elks convention in New Orleans gave Fournace power to suspend temporarily the white requirement, subject to the approval of a majority of the 2,166 sub ordinate lodges. Fournace, 63, has been an Elk since 1938, including four years on the national Board of Grand Trustees and seven years on the Youth Activities Committee. His duties in the unsalaried grand exalted ruler's post will include trips to all 50 states during the next year. Fournace Is vice president of the Ohio Power Co. in Canton.

Here are some of his views: Q. In addition to the resolution granting you discretionary power on membership require ments, the national convention also considered and rejected an amendment to eliminate the white rule outright. Are these proposals being considered because of the threat of court action against the Elks, or is there sentiment among the members for a change? Fournace: The first time this amendment was brought up in 1969 there was a mere handful that voted to take the word "white" out. This last time it is my judgment that of those present at least 40 per cent voted to eliminate the word. And I think this is something that is typically American.

I think the average citizen of the United States does not like to be forced or told what he has to do. He prefers to make up his own moral determination and ideas without pressure. So what would happen next year I don't know. However, there seems to be more each year who are perfectly willing to eliminate that particular membership qualification as far as our constitution and statutes are concerned. Court Pressure Q.

Are the Elks under pressure from the courts to change their membership rules? Fournace: The subordinate lodges have a problem with local ordinances that claim they are discriminating and as a matter of fact there are several cases before the Supreme Court (not directly involving the Elks). We have one now in the federal court in the state of Washington. We say we are under the First Amendment, a private club just like your home and therefore under the Constitution of the United States, we have the right of privacy. Q. Why was the white membership rule originally passed? Fournace: That particular pro vision has been in the constitution since about 1890, or perhaps prior to that time.

When it was put in, it is very doubtful that anyone thought about it from the standpoint of the Negro race. It was more likely the Orientals that were coming into the West Coast, and many of the lodges in the West had a problem in those days, believe it or not, with the red man. So actually why it was put in is questionable. Q. What are the prospects that Costly Decisions Retirees Swayed by Emotions i-jitk Dear Ann Landers: I'd like your opinion of a cartoon I got in the mail this morning.

It pictures a couple of shaggy-haired hippies one is a boy and one is a girl but they look very much alike in their dirty jeans, love beads, granny glasses, sandals and sunglasses. The girl is saying to the guy, "I gotta go pick up my unemployment check. Then I'll drsp in at the university to see what's holding up my federal grant. Meanwhile why don't you stop by the free cl'nic and check your X-rays and pick up my new glasses at the health center? If you have time, go by tLe welfare depart ment and try to get an increase. I'll meet you at 5 p.m.

in front of the Federal building for the mass demonstration against the rotten establishment." This cartoon is more than a laugh. It tells a lot about what's wrong with our society. Do you have the guts to print this and comment? Land Of Milk And Honey Dear Honey: The underlying message comes through loud and clear. I've said it before and I'll say it again. "Dependency breeds hostility." Dear Ann Landers: This is the same old story.

You're probably bored to pieces with it Married 35 years. Children grown. Grandchildren adorable. I should be happy as a meadow-lark, but I'm not. My husband is having an affair with his secre tary who is 20 years younger fy our 7 Wls9 I I WUJI7 the basis of the individual, not because a man is white as a class.

We don accept every person that's white. We want someone that has a good character, who's pleasant, who's gentlemanly and who has something to offer us. o. Do you thin- there are an increasing number of Elks members who feel now that there are black people who meet these other requirements? A. I'm sure there are and I think the Elks recognize that certainly.

I think that generally everyone in the United States has a different point of view than they had 10 years ago. Q. Can you say what your personal feelings are on whether the white rule should be suspended or eliminated? A. I could, but I'm not going to. I'll be very honest with you.

I still think it's too early for me to do that. I'd like to wait and see what the subordinate lodges do. Q. Do you think there are significant numbers of blacks who would be interested in joining the Elks if membership were open to them? A. No, I frankly do not.

You know the colored Elks have a very fine organization. They're known as the Improved Bene volent and Protective Order of Elks of the World and they are very happy in their organization. You want to pssociate with the people that you can accommodate their point of view, that you feel at ease with ana that you have some communal relation with new location that would be more suitable?" New Freedom Yet another emotion involved here is the sudden freedom from factors that have influenced all your previous decisions on where to live, throughout your adult life and it's hard to ac cept and adjust to sudden free doms from anything. "You Retirement Home Guide," an AARP booklet, describes the sudden shift in mental perspec tives: "While you were employed, you selected the location of your home to suit the demands of your job. In earlier years, the needs of your growing children were considered selecting a home.

Now the place to live is based on your personal needs and desires. You really don't have to consult anyone unless you want advice. This new freedom can be overwhelming at first, but soon you get to en joy it." Besides a great deal of sound counsel on how to think your way to the right decisions on where to live in retirement, the AARP booklet covers many practical aspects of selecting the type of housing best suited to your own needs, and then living it. The Choices There are "at least 10 types of housing" offering choices to the retiree. The pros and cons of each are sketched out, from the single-family detached dwelling through income-producing units, various rentals options and coops and condominiums to mobile homes noting along the way that the burgeoning retirement villages have "received very high acceptance from retired people." Other chapters of the booklet provide practical tips on organizing and executing a move; keeping the house running and in repair with a minimum of effort and aggravation; things to remember when you close up a house for vacation; eliminating accident hazards in the home; and rules for handling emergencies.

It's all written with retirees! particularly in mind, of but much of it is so broadly; practical that almost any householder will find it The booklet is one of a number of AARP publications on better retirement living. You don't have to wait till they hand you that watch and your final paycheck, by the way, to join. Anyone who's 55 or over and has $2 for a year's dues is welcome: American Association of Retired Persons, 1225 Connecticut Ave. NW, Washington, Venise lace highlighted the sheer yoke and virago sleeves of the bride's empire-style gown of polyester organza. Chris Hipsher was maid of honor, and Cheryl Pare, the groom's sister, was bridesmaid.

They wore pink pants formals with sheer yokes and Venise lace at the high waistlines, neck and on the bishop sleeves. Michael Coulter, the groom's cousin, was best man, and the groom's uncle, Edgar Coulter, was groomsman. Seating guests wre Jerry bumpier ana lorn Radliff. A reception in the church fol lowed the ceremony. The couple left on a trip to California, where they will make their home temporarily.

Who's New An 8-pound, 5-ounce boy born July 23 to Mr. and Mrs. Jim Mills of Grand Prairie, Tex. is the news received by grandparents, Mrs. Frances Montgomery of 1452 E.

Prairie Ave. Mrs. Shirley Songer of Oreana, Francis Songer of 1504 N. Church St. and James Mills of Paducah, Ky.

The baby, Yon Dane Mills, has a sister, Valerie, and great-grandparents, Mrs. Tina Mills of Barlow, Mrs. Josephine Meece of 442 W. Green Clyde Songer of 203 Home and Mrs. Edna Songer of 252 E.

Condit St. KLINA KINDER OPEN HOUSE SET Klina Kinder Country School will have a public open house from 2 to 4 p.m. Sunday at the school, 5600 Block W. Union School Rd. Enrollments also will be taken.

The fall session at Klina Kinder begins at 9 a.m. Sept. 7, with classes preschoolers, 3 to 5 years, and for primary grades, 1 through 3. Dr. Ina June Organ is director.

suits, full length coats, coat and dress ensembles from Vera Maxwell and with the lowly prices, people wonder what happened! Winter coats are very high -styled, and we have one to beat all. It is floor length, just happens to be washable, and costs only $50.00. What more could you possibly Good taste is nrice-less but it doesn't cost a thing at Pret A Porter. Good taste is an ingredient that goes into everything we sell here. It costs no more now than it did when we started in business and it didn't cost a cent then.

It's something we put in everything we buy are intangible quality that helps identify our merchandise at PBET A PORTER ROJ1TIOVE 226 WEST Emn-RADO IN THE COURT. ROGERS-MORROW Clinton Cathy Sue Rogers and David Morrow exchanged wedding vows in a candlelight ceremony Aug. 14 in First Christian Church, Clinton. Parents of the couple are Mr. and Mrs.

Raymond A. Rogers of Clinton, in whose home the reception was held, and Mr. and Mrs. Walter Morrow of Kenney. The bride's gown of dotted Swiss over pale lavender or gandy featured a shirred bodice with high ruffled neck and long sleeves with gathered cuffs.

She carried a bouquet of summer flowers. Sandy Lewis, maid of honor, wore a gown of lavender dotted Swiss with daisy design. Connie Mathias was bridesmaid, and junior bridesmaids were the bride's cousins, Tobi Hoge and Dawn Williams. They wore empire-style gowns of lavender organza with scooped necklines and puffed sleeves. The bride's cousin, Julie Williams, was flower girl.

Linn Morrow was his brother's best man. Groomsmen were Jack Wrage, Ray Morrow, the groom's cousin, and Cris Rog ers, the bride's brother. Kent Miller and Ted Wilkerson ushered. The couple will live at 216 E. Adams Clinton.

Both graduates of Clinton High School, the groom is employed at Weliers Co. in Champaign and the bride at IGA. REYNOLDS-PARE Nellie Katherine Reynolds and Lance Corp. Darrell Quinten Pare exchanged wedding vows Aug. 20 in St.

John's Episcopal Church. Parents of the couple are Mr. and Mrs. John S. Reyn olds of 2252 N.

Church St. and Mr. and Mrs. Don Q. Pare of 2768 E.

Wallace Ave. The bride is a graduate of Stephen Decatur High School and Decatur School of Practical Nursing. The groom is station ed with the Marines At Camp Pendleton, Calif. He is a graduate of Lakeview High School. "A leader has two important characteristics: First, he is going some, where; second, he is able to persuade other people to go with him." This little quote reached us, and we like it.

But as usual we would like to add some-thiug. We also would say you never in your life saw a leader shab' bily dressed. It goes without saying different types of work demand different types of dress but regardless one can be neat and attractive. We may not have all the answers to "Everything you would like to knotv about the new fall styles and have been afraid to ask" but we can clue you in on several of them We are unpacking some of the most beautiful fall things we have ever seen in our whole born days! Costume By Carlton Smith Newspaper Enterprise Association Emotional factors that influence the plans you make for retirement years can lead to costly mistakes. Costly both in dollars and cents and, far worse, in lost satisfaction and pleasure.

One of the big questions for most retirees is whether to move or stay put. And it's a common thing, apparently, to make a wrong decision because emotions have been allowed to interfere with clear thinking. Does another part of the country look more attractive? Or does staying on where you're living make more sense? First, draw up side-by-side lists of the pros and cons, advises the American Association of Retired Persons, providing check-off lists of more common argu ments for and against. And then, after you've sorted out what you think are the facts, sit back for a truth-or-conse- quences session with yourself. "Consider your emotional at tachment to your present home," the AARP suggests, and try to give yourself honest ans wers to questions such as: "Are you staying to relive past experiences? Are you moving to get away from un pleasant memories? Do you really want to move away from your children and friends? Or do you want to stay simply because it is too much trouble to find a Montage married Aug.

28, 1921, and he has held positions with the Masonic Home ir. Sullivan, and with the city of Sullivan and Moultrie County. The couple has two sons, Ebner Jr. of DeKalb and Richard of Mount Zion, and fcur Golden Anniversary Non-cling lingerie by Lady Lynne in lovely opaque crape. A nylon, rayon, polyester blend that won't bunch or cling and that's all important in today's fashion world! sketched; gown, pink or white $12 petti slip, white 57 slip, wide stretch etlastic straps.

White in short or average. 32 to 40 $8 VAN LA Carol's main at prairie, downtown Friends and relatives are Invited to celebrate the golden wedding anniversary of Mr. and Mrs. Elmer Leeds of Sullivan at an open house from 2 to 4 p.m. Sunday in the First United Methodist Church, Sullivan.

Mr. Leeds and the former Florence Grider were D. C. 20036..